“The moment one gives close attention to anything, even a blade of grass it becomes a mysterious, awesome, indescribably magnificent world in itself.” –
Tuesday, November 30, 2010
“Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.” -Hardy D. Jackson
There is a big difference between being there for people and being inauthentic to please people. The irony is that we often do this for people we love thinking it’s what they want. It isn’t. They want our needs to be met–but they can’t know them unless we acknowledge and honor them ourselves.
We are the ones who need to decide who we are and what it means to be true to ourselves; and we’re the ones who have to find the strength to walk away when something isn’t right.
Only we can choose and leave our jobs. Only we can enter and end our relationships. Only we can decide when to go out, when to stay in, when to push, when to rest, when to try, and when to opt out. We can’t outsource our choices, but we can give ourselves permission to make them.
What would it look like if you were completely true to yourself today, without judging yourself or compromising to make other people happy?
Friday, November 26, 2010
"The only reason we don't open our hearts and minds to other people is that they trigger confusion in us that we don't feel brave enough or sane enough to deal with. To the degree that we look clearly and compassionately at ourselves, we feel confident and fearless about looking into someone else's eyes."
- Pema Chodron
- Pema Chodron